“If you intend to write as truthfully as you can, your days as a member of polite society are numbered.”
― Stephen King, On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft
Quote courtesy goodreads
Do you agree, and if so, how far ?
In my opinion, a writer/blogger should never write what is untrue (except in fiction, which is a given). At the same time, if there is a truth that can hurt someone, it is better left unwritten. Maybe it can be given a less offensive/sensitive form. I usually do not write about controversial topics on my blog. Maybe I am a scaredy cat, but I think this is so because I want to keep the mood light in my posts.
Again, do you agree with Stephen King?
Do let me know in the comments section or in a post of your own.
I like it written non offensively .
As such l agree with you .
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I am glad you agree.
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I think sometimes it’s good to offend people, only because I think (and this is my own opinion). It makes me question what I’m willing to “put up with”, not just for myself, but with others too. There is a limit always though.
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It is very difficult to be candid and set boundaries but if you manage to do it life becomes so surprisingly simple.
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It really does!
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Yes, I guess the truth is not liked by many…in my real life some people don’t like me because I’m always honest…as for the writing world, I’m pretty much the same and I stay away from controversy too ☺️
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I agree, controversy is too exhausting.
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I think King may be referring to truth in writing about human behaviour, as opposed to singling out the truths about individuals. I haven’t read King’s novels in a while, but that’s what I generally remember about his writing.
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Although I have not read any of his novels (I don’t read horror) I have read his writing advice on the Internet.
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You and I are on the same page here
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Good to hear that.
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This question has come up so many times for me as I contemplate writing a memoir. Anne Lamott’s quote is used frequently as justification to speak the truth. “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” I never want to offend or hurt anyone’s feelings so I tend to veer away from controversial topics on my blog.
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I try to avoid controversy too.
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There are so many who confuse being polite and tactful with being dishonest (eg: false compliments said for the sake of not hurting someone’s feelings, reflexively saying, “Fine,” when someone asks how they are doing, etc.), and are willing to shun those who even hint at the actual truth in those situations, that I can’t help but feel that there is truth to what Mr. King says.
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That is so true.
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Here’s mine.
Sometimes it is best to say nothing as the truth hurts, or someone takes umbrage for no apparent reason.
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“If you have nothing nice to say
Don’t say anything at all.”
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Yes I agree with him
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Great minds think alike 😉
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I make it a point not to offend anyone too.
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Good idea.
Better for everyone s mental health.
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So very true
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Here are my thoughts: https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.com/2021/09/06/blogging-insights-8-9-6-2021/
I don’t think your choice to bow out of the touchier, more controversial debates is just that – a choice. No fear involved (well maybe a tiny bit), just respect for others’ opinions and thoughtfulness about their views.
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I am glad you think so.
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When you look at the full quote it makes a world of difference to the part quote ..
“Reading at meals is considered rude in polite society, but if you expect to succeed as a writer, rudeness should be the second to least of your concerns. The least of all should be polite society and what it expects. If you intend to write as truthfully as you can, your days as a member of polite society are numbered, anyway.”
― Stephen King
For me this means in essence that you should not be writing for others but yourself, don’t think about what the others think – of course one then has to ask could this, does this refer to fiction or non fiction writing? I think with fiction writing, you need to embellish and dance a little further from the centre than you might if you were writing non fiction – but ultimately, it is always about how confident you are with your writing on and in your writing.
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