Anger Management– Sunday Poser # 54

Welcome to Sunday Poser, a weekly prompt by iSadje of KeepItAlive

We all get angry at one time or another.

What do you do when you get angry? What do you do to calm down?

I have always had a problem with anger. To my embarrassment , my mother can narrate many tantrums and meltdowns from my childhood. Myself, I can remember getting very hot and bothered when I couldn’t find something or when my little brother annoyed me.

When I grew up, stress and anxiety over exams and then work pushed anger to the back burner. Later still, juggling family and careerI used to get angry with the kids when they dawdled over home work or squabbled with each other. Snide remarks or inconsiderate behaviour from toxic people made my anger thermometer rise to unexpected heights.

As I entered middle age , I started recognising anger as an old “frenemy” . I have learned to cope with it better realising that, like arthritis, anger cannot be cured although you can manage it.

When I get angry I :

1.Take a deep breath

2. Delay my response

3. When I do respond, I try to say as little as possible — “least said, soonest mended“.

4. Remain non-judgmental

5. Try to see things from a different perspective.

What I have also realised over the years that that the person my anger hurts most is ME . Hence I have practised strategies to help me calm down.

To calm down I :

1. Listen to music.

2. Go for a walk.

3. Watch a TV show and do some embroidery.

4. Unload by ranting to a good friend

. 5. Work on my blog

6. My best tip : do some tidying up — by the time I finish, my anger has gone and I have a neat space — a win win situation

What do you do when you’re angry and what steps do you take to calm down?

5 thoughts on “Anger Management– Sunday Poser # 54

  1. Anger is an issue, I used to fly off the handle frequently. Not so much anymore. At work, I have the 24 hr rule. Dumb or ignorant emails go into a special folder. At home, I lower my voice and shake my head yes while saying no. Walk the dogs, talk to myself, work on a project.

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